Written by David DiCrescenzo on . Posted in Guest Articles

Publisher's Note:  I always get feedback from readers both pro and con.  Sometimes they are spitting mad and other times they couldn't agree more.  Apparently, I struck a few chords as I was greeted by this in an email this morning.

A lady reader named Anonymous took to her keyboard from a woman's perspective to point out that "sexual misconduct" can go both ways, and here's what she had to say.
Anonymous:  The recent accusations for Judge Roy Moore and the subsequent daily firings of men in high-powered roles of government, media and entertainment industries have one resounding thing in common – it was a long time ago.  So why did the accusations of Roy Moore open up the proverbial door?

One can only speculate on where the line between truth and perspective might be drawn, but as a female, it is time to talk about women and their role in the misconduct.  That’s not to say that men don’t sexually harass women or commit sexual crimes so don’t get your feminist fangs out just yet; but when it comes to many of these accusations, they are about inappropriate behavior.  And frankly, from the female side of this topic, women are just as inappropriate as men if you judge them based on their pursuit of men as we are now judging men in pursuit of women in the workplace or any place.
That’s right women pursue men and sometimes so strategically that they themselves open the door.  And when that opened door leads to sexual advances, it can also lead to a woman scorned, often followed by an indignation that the man walked through the door after feeling himself invited.  You see, women (and I have heard the conversations of many) can sometimes want the attention, encourage the sexual advances, and then when it doesn’t turn out quite as they expected, it is suddenly inappropriate sexual misconduct or harassment.  They can choose to label either of the former while men were simply taking their lead. 

I know many of you will wonder how can a women say such things about her own gender, but come on ladies, many of you have been there, done that, and you wouldn’t want anyone to know until of course you are so scorned and that man runs for higher office.

In a recent conversation with men and younger women, both confirmed that in today’s society, not only are men of all ages bold about what they want, but underage females are as well. 

That’s right teenagers are and have been for decades having consensual sex.  In the case of Roy Moore, given the dates of his accusers, including the one forged in the now infamous yearbook, it wasn’t uncommon that older men dated underage girls and often with parental consent.  In fact, in a time where females were not encouraged to put an education and career as their first goal, Roy Moore with his career ahead of him would have been the guy you wanted your daughter to marry. 

We will never know what happened between Moore and his accusers, but one thing is clear; there have been lies, the timing is very suspect to come forward, and one accuser states she openly dated Moore – openly means in public and not hidden.  Where was the outrage at that time?  Right, there wasn’t any because culturally that wasn’t an issue.

So ladies the next time your coworker who flirted with you months before says unbutton your blouse and you do, don’t be alarmed when he takes that as an invitation for sexual misconduct. But you are not innocent in the process; your behavior was itself an inappropriate response.  It isn’t okay to come back years later and say you were harassed.  I don’t’ care which media superstar locks a door; if you were so appalled you should have said something immediately and perhaps found a blunt object to defend yourself.  But that doesn’t appear to be what happened.  You opened the door with the first button you undid and what happened was a man who pursued you probably believed it was consensual.  So really who is at fault here?  We can all pick a side, but to say that you were completely innocent isn’t reality.

I don’t think much will change from all of these recent accusations and firings, except maybe the hiring of white males will increase because why take the chance on the female between two qualified job candidates?  She might become scorned, she might pose a financial risk to her employer, she might misinterpret something and she might pursue one of her male coworkers.  Feminists are making it harder for the rest of the females who don’t need a lawyer to handle an unwanted sexual advance.  Stop creating an atmosphere where women are not hired; after all, you have spent 50 plus years fighting to break the glass ceilings.

Roy Moore did the right thing by staying in the race and defending his name and reputation.  When his accuser said he no longer has power over her by her making her accusations public just before an election, what does she mean?  Think about it.

Anonymous Female